There is a Transgender at work. She believes she is a boy on the inside.
When I first met her she was a lesbian with a girlfriend and they both wanted to be my friend. I remember asking, 'why?' but I must have went along with it, not verbally but by action even just by being friendly.
Then she wanted to become a boy and I didn't understand it. I still don't and I never will because I know my Creator doesn't make 'mistakes' like that. Thank You Lord I was on vacation when she had everyone at work sign paperwork agreeing to her change of mind and name. I didn't know what to say to her except that it was against my religion. So she started going to church to find out why, problem is she found a church that accepts gay's and lesbians as okay.
Her girlfriend broke up with her.
Now she is going to have surgery to change all of her physical parts to a boy. Now she is mocking God's creation, a scoffer. All this time I had refused to call her, a him, and call her by her boy name. I had been using a nickname that I got permission to use from her. Yesterday I got pulled aside by the union before it get's to management that I must call her, him on the workroom floor and call her by her boy name. This all came about because I tried to warn her that she didn't need to go so far as the surgery, we all know she is a 'boy' now. She has both management and the union on her side about forcing people to go along with this.
To put it bluntly, I deserve what I got for trying to 'rebuke' or correct the wicked, it would have come down to some kind of confrontation one day anyway. However, I still refuse to lie straight to the beautiful face of a woman who is just hurting inside and feels that she cannot change something she is afraid of in herself. Why did I warn her? I care too much, possibly by being friendly with her I thought of her as a friend in trouble. I asked others who I know to be Christians what to do about it, some said to give her up to prayer, others said to unplug myself from her, or to never talk to her again since this act of telling her a lie every time I see her face just grinds against my soul, makes my Spirit feel cold and I fear that the Lord's wrath will be against me if I do lie. So I turned to the Creator, the Almighty for wisdom and guidance. Lord what should I say? What should I do? Flee to another office? Fight it and be fired (since both management and the union agree on this and I a lowly employee don't)?
The Spirit feels right about me simply saying this to her:
"I will leave you alone and you will leave me alone."
He who corrects a scoffer gets shame for himself,
And he who rebukes a wicked man only harms himself,
Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you;
Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you.
Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser;
Teach a just man, and he will increase in learning.
Blessed (or happy) is the man
Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly,
Nor stands in the path of the sinners,
Nor sit's in the seat of the scornful;
But his delight is in the law of the Lord,
And in His Law he meditates day and night.
If anyone else out there is having the problem of how to deal with a Transgender, a scoffer of God's creation of who He made them to be, I ask that you don't mess with them. Don't friend them, don't even be friendly to them, remove your foot from evil and know that God will deal with them. If they turn from their ways, He will show them mercy, if they harden their hearts against Him and you, leave their presence or tell them what I will tell her every time she even just say's hello. I will say, "I will leave you alone And you will leave me alone." It seems cruel but I would rather be cruel to mankind than be counted amongst the wicked and go to Hell for it.
For those of you who have ears, let you hear and remember this. Love the Lord over man, only and always the Lord. You don't need to 'save' anyone, just yourself. Learn from my mistake, The righteous should choose his Friends carefully for the Wicked will lead them Astray and like the winds of change that blow every which way, so the wicked are like Chaff on those winds, changing their minds and hearts to whatever whim blows their way, pushing them around. Stay steadfast on the Lord and His truth. Do not help others or they can drag you down with them. Thank you Lord for saving me from the wicked and the scoffer!